I know you…You are smart, ambitious and successful and you feel pretty good a lot of the time. Except for the one big obvious missing piece… love.
On your good days, you know you are a great ‘catch;’ you have your shit together and someone would be lucky to have you. But on your not so good days, which are becoming more and more frequent, you secretly wonder if something is really wrong with you that you are still alone.
Watching everyone around you pairing up is hard. It only reminds you of your loneliness and then to make matters worse, you judge yourself for feeling jealousy and envy.
You know you ‘should’ be happy and grateful for all that you do have in your life but it’s hard to appreciate it because going home to an empty house sucks. Dating the wrong guy over and over, staying too long in a relationship you KNOW isn’t the one and feeling like you are doing something wrong but just can’t figure out what that is… has you feeling defeated and maybe even hopeless.
You’ve lost yourself a little in all the pleasing, the achievement-seeking and performing. Keeping up this façade is taking its toll. While you are successful at work, it’s partly because you fill your emptiness there and it is the one place you can control your life and find a sense of significance.
You are exhausted from pretending you are happy, have it all together and from fending off sympathy so you have begun to skip gatherings or events. Instead, you opt for binging on Netflix and numbing out to more wine than you’d ever admit to anyone (or chips… or ice cream) or isolating in another way.
This only helps for the moment so when you wake up in the morning you start this shame cycle all over again, asking yourself ‘Who would want someone who lives like this?”
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
Girl, stop doing this to yourself! YES… that is right. I said YOU CAN STOP THIS RIGHT NOW!
I know because I’ve been exactly where you are.
I’m Hilary Silver, Relationship Expert, Coach and Mentor to successful ambitious women just like you, who want a healthy happy loving relationship. You CAN have both, success in your work life and in your love life.
I struggled to feel worthy of love and believing something was wrong with me had me hiding out and keeping men at a distance. I feared that if they discovered the real me, they’d reject me.
The only boyfriends I’d had were the ‘bad boys’ in high school and all relationships after that were short lived and totally dysfunctional.
I watched everyone around me settle down and have families but I couldn’t figure out ‘what was wrong with me’ that I was having so much trouble finding love!
Finally, I invested in a mentor and did the work to overcome my obstacles and within weeks, I met the man that I’ve now been with for 17 years and have created the exact life I always wanted!
This is the same process and method that I’ve now been teaching for 16 years and have helped thousands of clients find love, launch healthy relationships and keep their love alive through babies, business and busy-ness!
AND NOW, IT’S YOUR TURN
Here’s a bit more about me
I am a Relationship Expert, Coach and mentor to ambitious successful business women looking for LOVE.
With 16 years of experience as a licensed couples therapist, I have worked with thousands of clients on issues such as self-love and confidence, personal empowerment, launching healthy relationships, communication, business-related relationship issues, infidelity, sex and lasting passion.
I have been featured on Steve Harvey, and in Men’s Fitness, Women’s Health, Martha Stewart Weddings, Cosmopolitan and Womanista to name a few.
I hold a master’s degree in social work and am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I have extensive training in many of the most innovative and cutting edge therapy and coaching strategies including EMDR; marital, couples and relationship therapies, sex therapy, CBT and mindfulness-based practices and have studied with some of the masters in my field.
Above all of that, I use my personal journey from isolation and pain to joy and fulfillment as inspiration to help others find meaning and purpose in their lives. I’ve been with my husband for 17 years (married for 11) and we have two spirited kids so I know exactly what it takes to keep the love and passion alive – even while I run a big business.
I am best known for my authentic and direct style, combining the most current trends in the counseling and coaching community with my own wisdom and perspective.
You CAN be the absolute best version of YOU, reach your fullest potential as a high achieving and high performing woman in business while having a deeply satisfying love life and staying happily married.