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Relationship CounselingHilary

I am a Relationship Expert and Master Empowerment Coach.

With 15 years of experience as a licensed couples therapist, I have worked with thousands of clients on issues such as launching healthy relationships, communication and conflict, infidelity, intimacy, sex and lasting passion.

“Hilary tells is like it is on topics that are difficult to talk about and has a no-nonsense style allows her to deliver common sense strategies and practical tools while being refreshingly authentic, firmly supportive, funny and wise.”

I have been featured on Steve Harvey, and in Men’s Fitness, Women’s Health, Martha Stewart Weddings, Cosmopolitan and Womanista to name a few.

I hold a master’s degree in social work and am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I have extensive training in many of the most innovative and cutting edge therapy and coaching strategies including EMDR; marital, couples and relationship therapies, sex therapy, CBT and mindfulness-based practices and have studied with some of the masters in my field.

Above all of that, I use my personal journey from isolation and pain to joy and fulfillment as inspiration to help others find meaning and purpose in their lives. I’ve been with my husband for 17 years (married for 11) and we have two spirited kids so I know exactly what it takes to keep the love and passion alive!

I am best known for my authentic and direct style, combining the most current trends in the counseling and coaching community with my own wisdom and perspective. See me for Love Coaching | Relationship Coaching | Life Coaching.

You CAN be the absolute best version of YOU and reach your fullest potential.

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“Hilary’s style is honest and open. She knows when to push you to help you break through your personal barriers and provides the environment where you feel comfortable doing so. Not only does she help you work through your challenges but she also celebrates your triumphs and reminds you to honor yourself for them too. Since I’ve been seeing Hilary I’ve had so much personal growth, more than with any other therapist or coach I have ever seen. The changes that I’ve seen in myself are a direct result of the time that I’ve spent with Hilary.”

– Brianne

My Story

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Not a happy time for me. Felt lonely, sad and disconnected all the time. Decide I am on my own so I have to figure things out by myself. Think something is wrong me with me and I’m not lovable. Have friends and boyfriends but nothing meaningful or genuine. Feel a deep sense of unworthiness and keep all those feelings and thoughts to myself.

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After nearly failing out of college my freshman year, feeling lost, confused and depressed I transfer to the University of Kansas to finish my degree. Happier but still struggle to feel worthy of and maintain romantic relationships. Realize something isn’t right inside, start reading self-help books, take a groundbreaking class on relationships – become a group facilitator and run my first relationship group. My career has started though I don’t yet realize it at the time.

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Anthropology degree in hand and a new found understanding of self-love and relationships with others (thanks to that class),  I bought a one-way ticket to Italy and return 7 months later from Indonesia. 10 countries visited in all. Learned I MUST be who I really am and share who I am with people to have connection. I also realize I can do anything I want to do! Eager for more adventure, I teach English in Japan for a year and travel in southeast Asia.

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Ready to settle down, earn a paycheck, know the mailman’s name and put my clothes in a dresser I chose Denver for the lifestyle. Worked two jobs knowing they were a temporary means to an ultimate end in a career as a therapist. Started working with my own therapist to understand myself more and to gain awareness about my patterns in relationships. Meet my future husband playing Ultimate frisbee.

Begin graduate school at 28 for my Master’s in Social Work with every intention of landing in private practice. Paid the mortgage with my student loans.

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Graduate with MSW, earn license after 2 years of supervised clinical work and dive in deep to post graduate clinical training in everything related to relationships, trauma, anxiety and more. Marry my love and get pregnant with our son. Struggle with the bumpy transition into parenthood. Trying to balance it all, navigate changing roles and new identities. It’s just a bit overwhelming and our marriage is extremely strained. Commitment to each other, humility and willingness to self-reflect saves us and we try to focus on the joy of being parents.

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Life is good. I’m exactly where I want to be – the relationship, starting a family, enjoying a fruitful and rewarding practice that helps people love themselves better and get what they want in life. Discover my style as a therapist is unique. Being truly authentic and down to earth as well as opinionated and direct is apparently rare. Clients come back time and again citing I ‘get them’ and know I care. I’m blessed.

What else could a girl want? Another child! Which didn’t come so easily this time; two miscarriages and a dose of fertility meds… finally at 38 our daughter is born. Parenting two kids, maintaining a marriage and running a business is tough. Marriage strained again as time and resources are even thinner. Prioritize and do my best to live in my values and be the person I can be proud of. Run two ½ marathons, in the best shape of my life because I finally learn to take good care of myself

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Hell yes! Being 40 is the best. I truly believe getting older is a gift. We settle into loving and accepting our bodies and ourselves- and of recognizing and taking opportunities to grow spiritually and emotionally. Life is wonderfully full of hardship and joy but when you believe in your self and have a deep trust in your self you know that you can handle anything that comes your way. Learning lessons from the unexpected and from our struggles is how we become our best selves. What is next? Bring it!
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Available for Coaching & Consulting appointments in our Denver office or by phone/Skype.

Ashleigh

love coaching | relationship coaching | life coachingAshleigh believes that our personal struggles become the greatest source of growth and character development. A child of divorce and a lot of moving, she learned very early, the importance of creating meaningful relationships.

Doing her own deep work as well as receiving world class therapist education and training has allowed Ashleigh to turn her hardships into learning opportunities both for herself and for her clients. After experiencing what seemed like endless dating and the pain of being the last one of her friends to marry, difficulty having a baby and a proclivity towards people- pleasing, Ashleigh is now the happy and fulfilled momma of a daughter and a son.

Ashleigh’s strengths and expertise as a therapist providing relationship counseling, are her ability to put people at ease, enjoy the process no matter how challenging and to understand the core issues very quickly. She is wildly empathetic, funny and wise with a wealth of knowledge in the areas of professional development, interpersonal communication and effectiveness and marital and family therapy.

Ashleigh relies on her background in family and couples training, as well as adult attachment theories and leadership coaching to help her clients achieve their goals through counseling. While Ashleigh holds her Masters in Social Work she continues to stay current on best practices in the industry.

I trust her completely and know you are in excellent care with her as your counselor, coach or consultant. See Ashleigh for Love Coaching | Relationship Coaching | Life Coaching and Counseling.

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Hilary Silver, LCSW

Hilary Silver, LCSW

Relationship & Intimacy Expert. Master Coach

Ashleigh Rankin, LCSW

Ashleigh Rankin, LCSW

Relationship & Intimacy Counselor & Coach