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Hello You!

I know you…You are smart, ambitious and successful and you feel pretty good a lot of the time. Except for the one big obvious missing piece… love.

On your good days, you know you are a great ‘catch;’ you have your shit together and someone would be lucky to have you. But on your not so good days, which are becoming more and more frequent, you secretly wonder if something is really wrong with you that you are still alone.

Watching everyone around you pairing up is hard. It only reminds you of your loneliness and then to make matters worse, you judge yourself for feeling jealousy and envy.

You know you ‘should’ be happy and grateful for all that you do have in your life but it’s hard to appreciate it because going home to an empty house sucks. Dating the wrong guy over and over, staying too long in a relationship you KNOW isn’t the one and feeling like you are doing something wrong but just can’t figure out what that is… has you feeling defeated and maybe even hopeless.

You’ve lost yourself a little in all the pleasing, the achievement-seeking and performing. Keeping up this façade is taking its toll. While you are successful at work, it’s partly because you fill your emptiness there and it is the one place you can control your life and find a sense of significance.

You are exhausted from pretending you are happy, have it all together and from fending off sympathy so you have begun to skip gatherings or events. Instead, you opt for binging on Netflix and numbing out to more wine than you’d ever admit to anyone (or chips… or ice cream) or isolating in another way.

This only helps for the moment so when you wake up in the morning you start this shame cycle all over again, asking yourself ‘Who would want someone who lives like this?”

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

Girl, stop doing this to yourself! YES… that is right. I said YOU CAN STOP THIS RIGHT NOW!

I know because I’ve been exactly where you are.

I’m Hilary Silver, Relationship Expert, Coach and Mentor to successful ambitious women just like you, who want a healthy happy loving relationship. You CAN have both, success in your work life and in your love life.

I struggled to feel worthy of love and believing something was wrong with me had me hiding out and keeping men at a distance. I feared that if they discovered the real me, they’d reject me.

The only boyfriends I’d had were the ‘bad boys’ in high school and all relationships after that were short lived and totally dysfunctional.

I watched everyone around me settle down and have families but I couldn’t figure out ‘what was wrong with me’ that I was having so much trouble finding love!

Finally, I invested in a mentor and did the work to overcome my obstacles and within weeks, I met the man that I’ve now been with for 17 years and have created the exact life I always wanted!

This is the same process and method that I’ve now been teaching for 16 years and have helped thousands of clients find love, launch healthy relationships and keep their love alive through babies, business and busy-ness!
AND NOW, IT’S YOUR TURN

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Relationship CounselingHere’s a bit more about me

I am a Relationship Expert, Coach and mentor to ambitious successful business women looking for LOVE.

With 16 years of experience as a licensed couples therapist, I have worked with thousands of clients on issues such as self-love and confidence, personal empowerment, launching healthy relationships, communication, business-related relationship issues, infidelity, sex and lasting passion.

I have been featured on Steve Harvey, and in Men’s Fitness, Women’s Health, Martha Stewart Weddings, Cosmopolitan and Womanista to name a few.

I hold a master’s degree in social work and am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I have extensive training in many of the most innovative and cutting edge therapy and coaching strategies including EMDR; marital, couples and relationship therapies, sex therapy, CBT and mindfulness-based practices and have studied with some of the masters in my field.

Above all of that, I use my personal journey from isolation and pain to joy and fulfillment as inspiration to help others find meaning and purpose in their lives. I’ve been with my husband for 17 years (married for 11) and we have two spirited kids so I know exactly what it takes to keep the love and passion alive – even while I run a big business.

I am best known for my authentic and direct style, combining the most current trends in the counseling and coaching community with my own wisdom and perspective.

You CAN be the absolute best version of YOU, reach your fullest potential as a high achieving and high performing woman in business while having a deeply satisfying love life and staying happily married.

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“Hilary’s style is honest and open. She knows when to push you to help you break through your personal barriers and provides the environment where you feel comfortable doing so. Not only does she help you work through your challenges but she also celebrates your triumphs and reminds you to honor yourself for them too. Since I’ve been seeing Hilary I’ve had so much personal growth, more than with any other therapist or coach I have ever seen. The changes that I’ve seen in myself are a direct result of the time that I’ve spent with Hilary.”

– Brianne

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“Hilary’s approach is that of a highly-trained and educated professional, disguised as the friend you want. She brings the science of psychology to the table, but delivers it in accessible and supportive ways. She will challenge your ideas and misconceptions, and flag you when a choice or behavior seems unproductive… yet won’t chastise you for it, and offers support in all scenarios.”

– Katie

My Story

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Not a happy time for me. Felt lonely, sad and disconnected all the time. Decide I am on my own so I have to figure things out by myself. Think something is wrong me with me and I’m not lovable. Have friends and boyfriends but nothing meaningful or genuine. Feel a deep sense of unworthiness and keep all those feelings and thoughts to myself.

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After nearly failing out of college my freshman year, feeling lost, confused and depressed I transfer to the University of Kansas to finish my degree. Happier but still struggle to feel worthy of and maintain romantic relationships. Realize something isn’t right inside, start reading self-help books, take a groundbreaking class on relationships – become a group facilitator and run my first relationship group. My career has started though I don’t yet realize it at the time.

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Anthropology degree in hand and a new found understanding of self-love and relationships with others (thanks to that class),  I bought a one-way ticket to Italy and return 7 months later from Indonesia. 10 countries visited in all. Learned I MUST be who I really am and share who I am with people to have connection. I also realize I can do anything I want to do! Eager for more adventure, I teach English in Japan for a year and travel in southeast Asia.

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Ready to settle down, earn a paycheck, know the mailman’s name and put my clothes in a dresser I chose Denver for the lifestyle. Worked two jobs knowing they were a temporary means to an ultimate end in a career as a therapist. Started working with my own therapist to understand myself more and to gain awareness about my patterns in relationships. Meet my future husband playing Ultimate frisbee.

Begin graduate school at 28 for my Master’s in Social Work with every intention of landing in private practice. Paid the mortgage with my student loans.

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Graduate with MSW, earn license after 2 years of supervised clinical work and dive in deep to post graduate clinical training in everything related to relationships, trauma, anxiety and more. Marry my love and get pregnant with our son. Struggle with the bumpy transition into parenthood. Trying to balance it all, navigate changing roles and new identities. It’s just a bit overwhelming and our marriage is extremely strained. Commitment to each other, humility and willingness to self-reflect saves us and we try to focus on the joy of being parents.

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Life is good. I’m exactly where I want to be – the relationship, starting a family, enjoying a fruitful and rewarding practice that helps people love themselves better and get what they want in life. Discover my style as a therapist is unique. Being truly authentic and down to earth as well as opinionated and direct is apparently rare. Clients come back time and again citing I ‘get them’ and know I care. I’m blessed.

What else could a girl want? Another child! Which didn’t come so easily this time; two miscarriages and a dose of fertility meds… finally at 38 our daughter is born. Parenting two kids, maintaining a marriage and running a business is tough. Marriage strained again as time and resources are even thinner. Prioritize and do my best to live in my values and be the person I can be proud of. Run two ½ marathons, in the best shape of my life because I finally learn to take good care of myself

Early 40's

Hell yes! Being 40 is the best. I truly believe getting older is a gift. We settle into loving and accepting our bodies and ourselves- and of recognizing and taking opportunities to grow spiritually and emotionally. Life is wonderfully full of hardship and joy but when you believe in your self and have a deep trust in your self you know that you can handle anything that comes your way. Learning lessons from the unexpected and from our struggles is how we become our best selves. What is next? Bring it!

Mid 40's

Kids are a bit older now and life has finally become easier. I’m yearning for more in my business. Take the HUGE risk to leave therapy behind after 15 years so I can help more people and make a bigger impact as a coach. Begin developing a platform to scale my business to have more freedom and within 2 years, have my first national TV appearance on the Steve Harvey show. Manifesting my dreams fearlessly has been the way since I discovered my own voice so long ago. Eager to help others do the same with their dreams while staying happily married or committed.

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Ashleigh

love coaching | relationship coaching | life coachingAshleigh believes that our personal struggles become the greatest source of growth and character development. A child of divorce and a lot of moving, she learned very early, the importance of creating meaningful relationships.

Doing her own deep work as well as receiving world class therapist education and training has allowed Ashleigh to turn her hardships into learning opportunities both for herself and for her clients. After experiencing what seemed like endless dating and the pain of being the last one of her friends to marry, difficulty having a baby and a proclivity towards people- pleasing, Ashleigh is now the happy and fulfilled momma of a daughter and a son.

Ashleigh’s strengths and expertise as a therapist providing relationship counseling, are her ability to put people at ease, enjoy the process no matter how challenging and to understand the core issues very quickly. She is wildly empathetic, funny and wise with a wealth of knowledge in the areas of professional development, interpersonal communication and effectiveness and marital and family therapy.

Ashleigh relies on her background in family and couples training, as well as adult attachment theories and leadership coaching to help her clients achieve their goals through counseling. While Ashleigh holds her Masters in Social Work she continues to stay current on best practices in the industry.

I trust her completely and know you are in excellent care with her as your counselor, coach or consultant. See Ashleigh for Love Coaching | Relationship Coaching | Life Coaching and Counseling.

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Hilary Silver, LCSW

Hilary Silver, LCSW

Relationship Expert | Coach | Mentor

Ashleigh Rankin, LCSW

Ashleigh Rankin, LCSW

Relationship & Intimacy Counselor & Coach

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