Episode 11

Your Questions, Answered!

Today, Hilary takes on questions submitted by listeners, tackling a wide range of personal and emotional queries.
[00:00:01] Introduction: Hilary introduces the podcast and sets the stage for a session of listener-driven content.
[00:02:34] Community and Support: Discussion on the importance of community and shared experiences in personal growth and emotional health.
[00:14:34] Addressing Listener Questions: Hilary, along with her friend and creative director Jess, answers pre-selected questions from the audience, providing deep dives into each issue.
[00:47:25] Anxiety and Intuition: A nuanced exploration of how to distinguish between anxiety driven by intuition versus insecurity.
[01:10:18] Addressing Personal Challenges: Tips on managing personal struggles with ADD, slow processing, and self-image issues.
[01:34:45] Motivation and Self-Care: Advice on finding motivation for fitness and self-care, emphasizing the importance of self-priority.
38 min.

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Show Notes

Welcome to another bonus episode of The Hilary Silver Podcast: “Your Questions, Answered!” Today, Hilary takes on questions submitted by listeners, tackling a wide range of personal and emotional queries. This episode not only answers listener-specific questions but also touches on universal themes that resonate with anyone looking to improve their emotional and psychological wellbeing through their relationship with SELF.

In this episode, you’ll learn...

Episode Highlights:
  • Hilary addresses complex personal questions on topics ranging from anxiety and intuition to managing insecurities and personal growth.
  • Listener interaction through questions that resonate with broad audience experiences.
  • Practical advice delivered with Hilary’s characteristic empathy and insight, providing actionable steps and new perspectives on common struggles.
Episode Breakdown:
Listener Takeaways:
  • Empathy and Connection: Understand you’re not alone in your struggles—common threads run through everyone’s experiences.
  • Practical Strategies: Learn practical ways to manage anxiety, trust your intuition, and embrace your personal challenges.
  • Empowerment: Gain insights on how to empower yourself by prioritizing your needs and setting actionable goals.

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Hi, it’s Hillary.

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Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast.

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One of the reasons that I closed my therapy practice in

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2017 to launch the Ready for Love company

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and then also the Ready for Love top tier program as a group

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is because after hearing client story

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after client story up to thousands

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of stories over the course of nearly 15 years, what I come,

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what I had come to realize was that if there’s something

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that one of us is worried about, wondering, about,

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concerned about, thinking about struggling with,

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it is something that all of us are worrying about,

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wondering about, struggling with, and thinking about.

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And there’s absolutely nothing like being in a community

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or being in an intimate group of other people

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who are talking about the very things

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that we are thinking about.

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We are never alone,

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and there is no better way to experience that than actually

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being in a community

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or a group hearing each other,

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asking these questions in this format.

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And it’s actually the most cutting edge way to

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expedite transformation

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and growth by doing things in a group or in a community.

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When I offer workshops

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and programs, I often offer them and,

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and host them as a live experience where I create content

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and material to present.

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But because I’m live with you all, my listeners,

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my audience, there’s an energy exchange, a flow of ideas,

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and I’ve been calling these episodes conversations,

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but today it truly is a conversation

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because those of you

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who have submitted questions will be heard.

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And I get to hear what you are thinking about

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and wondering about, and your reactions

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and responses to some of the things

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that I’ve been talking about.

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So it is truly a, a conversation today.

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And we typically think about a client being in the hot seat

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when they are getting coached

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or getting, um, guidance by some kind of speaker

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or guru or expert of some kind.

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Well, I actually think about it

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as I’m the one in the hot seat today

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because I’m here with my friend and creative director, Jess,

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and she’s the one who has plucked these questions randomly,

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um, from our list of, um, submissions.

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I have absolutely no idea what these questions are.

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I don’t know what they are, so I actually feel like

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I’m the one in the hot seat.

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My ass is already burning.

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So we are just gonna dive right in to the q and a today,

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and thank you all for your submissions.

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If you did not submit a question, I encourage you to do so.

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This is for our sub subscribers only.

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So before we dive in, I just wanna remind you to subscribe

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because that is how you can join the conversation

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and get your questions answered every so often

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when we do these q and a episodes.

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So welcome to Jess. Hi Jess. Hey

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Hillary, how are you?

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Thanks for being here. What you got for me?

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Like, lay on me. I’m ready and prepared. Okay,

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So we actually received quite a few questions about

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anxiety, which is interesting, but not surprising I think.

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So I’m gonna pitch you this first one

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because it’s really interesting to me as well.

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And this is the question, how do we discern

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between anxiety caused by intuition

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and anxiety caused by insecurity?

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Ooh. Okay.

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So anxiety caused from intuition

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versus anxiety caused from insecurity.

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So first of all, thank you, thank you, thank you

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for being willing to acknowledge you’re feeling

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anxious, you’re feeling it.

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So that is your cue.

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As I said on the anxiety episode, that is your cue

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to look towards yourself with curiosity and,

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and what you are discovering is there’s something there.

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You’re not sure if it’s intuition or insecurity,

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and I’m not sure that actually matters.

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So let’s, let’s separate it and tease it apart.

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Intuition is, which we did not talk about in our,

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any of our episodes yet.

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So that’s, let’s just make a note, Jess.

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We will let road, I teach

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that intuition is our deep self

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talking to ourselves

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and our intuition is really our sixth sense.

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It is the sixth sense that no one really talks about,

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but it is our felt sense.

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It is the deepest part of us that is, is

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experiencing something in reaction to

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a life event, an exchange we’re having.

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You’re meeting somebody and you’re intuition is saying, Ooh,

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or you’re being, you’re being presented with an opportunity

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or you know, maybe you’re about

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to make an investment in something or start a business

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or, um, you know, go out on a date

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with somebody or whatever.

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of yourself that is sensing what is right

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or not right for you.

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When we dismiss it is when we get into trouble.

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or dismiss, the primary feeling that we’re having

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is when we feel anxiety, when we feel anxious.

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So in this case, the primary feeling is

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your intuition is saying something’s not right.

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Something’s not right. This doesn’t feel good, right?

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So good. We wanna listen to that.

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The only way that you’re gonna know if this is an intuitive

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thing is to, to lean into that and to be curious about it.

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Ask yourself, well, what is it about this person?

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What is it about this situation?

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What is it about whatever this triggering event is

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that’s causing me to have this response

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that is making me feel this way?

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Is this person maybe not honest?

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Are they not being authentic?

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Maybe you don’t have evidence to prove that,

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but something is telling you it’s off.

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It’s not right. If it smells like a fish,

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it is a f*****g fish.

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Our intuition is often correct

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and we ignore it when we aren’t willing to listen.

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So listen, listen, listen and lean into that with curiosity,

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and you will find your answer.

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Now, let’s talk about insecurity.

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Your insecurity could be self-doubt about

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the way you’re thinking about something.

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You are like, when we think about insecurities, it’s,

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I don’t feel good about myself in this one way

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or in these many ways.

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I don’t feel good about how I look.

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I don’t feel good about, you know, my intellect.

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I don’t feel good about something. I’m unsure of myself.

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Some I’m insecure about myself in some way.

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It’s, that’s why I’m saying it almost doesn’t matter

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because ultimately it’s,

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it’s part of inside of you.

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If you are not trusting yourself, then you will be insecure.

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So if this in, if this person who submitted this question,

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I’m speaking to you, and then anybody else who’s listening

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can follow along you,

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what are you insecure about in this situation?

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Are you not trusting yourself?

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That what you’re feeling is right? Are you not trusting?

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Or are you doubting yourself that

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your perspective is valid?

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You think you’re not smart enough, you’re,

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there’s something about yourself in this case

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that only you can answer that you are feeling insecure.

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So both, whether it’s your intuition telling you something

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or your insecurities, it all comes back to

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going back to yourself

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and asking the right questions.

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What am I doubting? What am I feeling?

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What is going on with me?

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And rather than dismiss it and push it away

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and ignore it, you’re listening to it.

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You’re giving it voice, you’re giving it room.

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If you’re listening, then you won’t be doubting

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and you won’t be questioning and you’ll learn to trust.

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And your anxiety about the situation is likely to go away

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because you’re listening to you.

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And then whatever you have to do about the situation

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or the person that’s, that’s causing all

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of this will be more clear for you.

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Does that help? What do you think?

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Do you think there’s a follow up question

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that this person might have or anybody else might have?

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because I think what you are saying is very clear.

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that maybe it doesn’t really matter.

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Maybe the answer is more simple, right?

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Well, it doesn’t really matter whether it’s being caused

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by your intuition or your insecurity

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because both of them are directing you back inside anyway

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to say, Hey, pay attention, something’s off.

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Right? Right. Whether it’s from ins,

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factor and insecurity is more of an internal one.

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But regardless, both of them would cause you to look inside.

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Yeah, insecurity is like a lack of trusting self,

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not feeling good enough about self.

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I’m insecure, I’m insecure about how I look in this outfit.

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I’m insecure about whether I’m smart enough,

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I’m not feeling good enough about myself

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in whatever one area.

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And yeah, that is something that needs attention,

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but it’s about self-doubt.

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you won’t doubt when you start listening

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and you start trusting.

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So I guess the answer to both is self-trust either way.

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And knowing that you’ve got your own back and,

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and again, bringing it all the way back

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to the very beginning is anxiety will go away

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when you actually are listening

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and paying attention to the primary feeling, which is

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what this listener is doing.

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So you’re already on the right track. Yay.

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Okay, what’s the next question? Okay,

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So this is coming from someone who says they are dealing

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with a DD, slow processing and memory struggles.

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So what they say is this, this has caused me a great deal

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of stress and anxiety because I’m trying to hide it.

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It’s also causing me to feel depressed

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because it takes me so long to do anything

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and I feel like I’m always trying to keep up.

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How do I come clean

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with this information without it sounding like an excuse

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and taking the risk of other people looking down on me

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or thinking I can’t do the job?

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Ooh. Well, okay,

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so we haven’t talked about a DD on any of our episodes.

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Again, check mark, put that on the list.

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I love talking about that. Um,

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whether it’s a DD or dyslexia

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or I eat too much in the evening

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or whatever, what I’m hearing overall,

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if we’re gonna broaden this out

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and zoom out, we’re making this about not feeling good about

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the self feeling, shame

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about any way that we are, who we are,

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how we are in any way, our deficiencies, our challenges,

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our weaknesses, our struggles,

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things that we’re not great at.

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If we feel bad about it, then a

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that’s no way to live in the world.

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So it’s about making peace with ourselves

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and creating this unconditional love

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and positive regard for ourselves first and foremost.

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And I can come back to that in a second,

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but other people take their cues from you.

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So if you feel bad about yourself

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because of this a, d, d thing you’ve got going on,

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then anyone that you run into is going to feel that,

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feel that you feel bad about it

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and they are going, it’s like your invitation

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to treat you a certain way because of how you feel about it.

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So they take their cues from you.

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If you feel at peace with it, you’ve accepted it.

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You’ve even come to find that there are

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amazing beautiful qualities in having an a,

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DD brain like create endless creativity.

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of having an a, DD brain.

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If you come to feel self-love

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and unconditional positive regard for yourself no matter

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what, but especially

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because of this, then when you share this information,

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that is what will be received by everybody in your life.

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So if you’re hanging your head walking around, woe is me,

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poor me, I’m embarrassed by this,

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then other people will sense that and treat you that way.

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They will treat you as somebody who has low self-worth.

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They will see you as somebody who has low self-worth.

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But if you help walk around holding your head high,

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knowing all that you are

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and all of your beautiful,

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perfect imperfections the way you are, they will receive you

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that way as somebody who knows that they’re amazing

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and completely imperfect and perfect just the way you are.

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And that is how they are going to see you and treat you.

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It is challenging when you’re not operating in the capacity

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or to the level that you would like to for whatever reason.

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But beating yourself up

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for it only is compounding the problem

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because now you’re struggling with the problem

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and then you’re piling it on top.

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We have a way of kicking ourselves when we’re already down

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and you have to knock that s**t off right here, right now.

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It is not serving you in any way.

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It’s already hard enough to not be as productive

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as you wanna be in any given day or to not be able to focus

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or whatever it is.

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That’s enough. That is enough.

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I’m telling you right now, knock that s**t off.

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You do not deserve to be treated that way

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by anyone, let alone you.

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Okay? That is really, that cannot say that more

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powerfully enough when you stop beating up on

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yourself, you’ll be able to just come up

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with some strategies like solve the problem instead

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of spending all your time and energy beating yourself

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up for having the problem.

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It doesn’t serve you in any way at all.

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There are lots of strategies, Google them strategies

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for being more productive when you have a DD strategies

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for being more focused when you have a DD,

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we can do an episode on that.

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But for here and for right now, I’m just gonna tell you

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to go do the good old Google thing and, and search

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because there’s a lot of information online

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that can be helpful and you might just need to experiment

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and try a few things before you figure it out.

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But it is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

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Nothing that we do is something to be ashamed

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of if you’re looking for the answers

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and you’re holding yourself accountable, which you are

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so hugs to whoever that was

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and anyone else who can relate to that,

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A follow up on that.

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So he also asks, he

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or she, how do I come clean

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with the information without it sounding like an excuse

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or taking the risk of a person looking down?

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Yeah, thanks

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for reminding me the second half of that question.

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So it’s not an excuse if you’re not

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allowing it to be an excuse.

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There’s the difference between explaining something

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and making an excuse.

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I don’t excuse a lot of our bad behavior,

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but I do explain it once we explain it and say,

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and, and an example might be, I have a DD

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and that makes it really hard for me to do X, Y, and Z.

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Um, so a little patience would be great.

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Just know that I’m working on it

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and I’m doing everything that I can.

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You know, I’ve, I’ve figured out some strategies,

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some compensatory strategies.

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It’s when you hold yourself accountable

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and you’re not making an excuse for it,

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other people won’t hear your excuse.

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They will hear your explanation.

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Again, going back to my original answer,

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which is people take their cues from you.

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If you are being a victim, they will hear victimhood.

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If you are taking radical responsibility, then that is

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what they will hear a hundred percent

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and they won’t look down on you.

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As long as you aren’t looking down on you, it starts

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with you always.

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Awesome. I think that more than answered the question

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and I think that answered some other questions

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that weren’t asked as well.

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Okay, good. Okay, so we’ve got another question here,

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which is interesting.

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I know that you are a highly motivated person,

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so this is a great question for you.

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And it says this, what tips do you have

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that will give you the extra motivation you may need

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to get out of bed early and get your workout in when you

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really don’t feel like it and you have too much

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on your to-do list.

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Ah, okay.

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Number one, you are always the first on your to-do list.

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Okay? You are always number one on your to-do list.

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I’m going to share, share with you guys right now.

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It may come out backwards on Zoom,

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but work out, I even write it down

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before my first meeting of the day,

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before the first thing that I do, I literally write it down

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because it’s part of my day every day.

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Number one, always.

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Sometimes I find myself at the gym out of sheer force

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of habit without a plan.

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I don’t know what I’m even gonna be doing.

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I may not even be in the mood.

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And I get there and I’m like, I don’t know, but I’m there

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because it’s a habit

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and I just get my ass there no matter what.

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I am always on my to-do list that is a non-negotiable.

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So for number one

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to answer this question, first things first.

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You are always on your to-do list as number one.

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You don’t come last on your to-do list. You are number one.

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Now, when we’re talking about motivation, you all have

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to find your own motivation for exercise and fitness.

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For me, if I sit down in my chair,

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which I’m right here almost all day,

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if I don’t move my body by the end of the day, A,

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I don’t sleep very well, I’m not happy with myself,

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I can be irritable with my family

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and I don’t like the way it feels.

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I literally don’t like the way it feels.

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So that is part of what motivates me is my,

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my future self.

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Will the future Hillary,

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how is the future Hillary gonna feel if I don’t work out?

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She not going to be happy.

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She going to be mad, she going to be angry, she going

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to be resentful, she’s gonna be irritable.

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So for me, what gets me working out

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every day is how am I gonna feel at the end

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of the day if I have done this or if I haven’t done it.

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And I love going to bed with a clear conscience.

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I just do knowing that I can put my head down on

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that pillow at night and say I did the best that I could.

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It’s not always perfect in it ain’t always pretty.

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I can promise you that for sure.

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But I’ve done the best that I could that day with

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what I had available to me.

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Sometimes it means I don’t work out.

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That is the ultimate in self-care is recognizing do I need

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to do this today or do I need not to do this today?

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Sometimes saying like,

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ultimate in self-care is saying yes to yourself.

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And sometimes it’s saying no to yourself.

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So I’m internally motivated by how I,

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how I’m gonna feel at the end of the day.

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But one more thing about that, I personally am motivated

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by how I want to feel in my clothes and how I want to look.

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Call me vain. I don’t care. I want to look a certain way.

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And when I don’t look that way, I’m not happy.

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And also how my clothes fit and the kind of clothes.

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I love fashion, I love style.

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So if I’m not able to wear the things that I wanna wear

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and feel fabulous when I’m wearing them, that is part

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of the motivation for me.

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It just is. If I didn’t care about clothes or style

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or fashion, if it wasn’t something that I was into,

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then maybe that wouldn’t be the case for me.

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But it’s, so that’s, that was, that was kind

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of geared towards me as a, as a person who works out a lot.

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So I’m just giving you my personal way of, of managing that.

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What about you?

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For me personally? Motivation? Yes.

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Jess, you. Oh Goodness, maybe

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It’s not working out, maybe it’s not working out.

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But when there’s some, like what, when there’s something

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that, like how do you stay motivated

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to do the things that you do?

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What do you, what do you do?

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Well, I alternate unpleasant with pleasant, right?

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So I always give myself the most unpleasant task

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of the day first, followed by something that’s pleasant.

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And that way I have that sense of accomplishment that’s able

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to kind of propel me through the list, right?

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So I always try to reward myself with something that I enjoy

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after doing something that is just one of those things

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that must be done right?

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Mm-Hmm. Because there’s a lot of things that all of us,

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whether you’re a mom or not a mom, whether you’re working

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or not working, I think everyone faces adulting,

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right? Which is like,

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This Is an unfortunate thing that I must do.

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We, you know, so working through those must dos

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and alternating them with the get to dos, that’s kind

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of the way that I work through it

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because I know it has to be done.

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And I also understand,

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I hate the feeling of not doing it.

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I hate, like you said, you called it going to bed

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with a clear conscience going to bed.

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It’s almost like an inbox zero, right?

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Going to bed without that nagging feeling of,

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oh no, I didn’t do it.

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I must do it now, I have to do it tomorrow.

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Yeah. You know, it’s just better.

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I think when you really start to understand yourself,

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you can kind of work with yourself.

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Exactly. Which

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Makes me sound schizophrenic,

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but I think, you know what I mean?

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Like when you go into yourself, you say, okay, look, I know

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what I need to do to feel my best

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and I know what I need to do

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to do the things that I must do.

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Yeah. For others that rely on me.

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You know, I think that that’s, that’s a big part of it too.

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Yeah. I love that. That is so good.

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And, and to add to that, for me,

473
00:24:04.485 –> 00:24:06.525
I am more high energy in the morning.

474
00:24:06.985 –> 00:24:10.445
So I, I wake up at like four 30 sometimes, like on average

475
00:24:10.445 –> 00:24:11.445
between four and five.

476
00:24:11.785 –> 00:24:13.525
So around four 30 is when I wake up.

477
00:24:13.925 –> 00:24:15.125
I do all the workouts and,

478
00:24:15.145 –> 00:24:17.085
and you know, my mindset stuff in the morning.

479
00:24:17.105 –> 00:24:19.325
And I’m most creative and productive in the morning.

480
00:24:20.225 –> 00:24:24.645
So I like to do the things that require me to be

481
00:24:25.215 –> 00:24:27.485
sharp and focused in the morning.

482
00:24:27.705 –> 00:24:31.325
And I, I personally save those phone calls to the doctor,

483
00:24:31.745 –> 00:24:34.085
the, you know, the phone calls that I don’t wanna make

484
00:24:34.105 –> 00:24:35.445
or the things that I have to do

485
00:24:35.905 –> 00:24:39.165
for the afternoon when I don’t need my full brain,

486
00:24:39.315 –> 00:24:41.245
when I don’t need all my high energy

487
00:24:41.705 –> 00:24:43.445
and I can just crank that stuff out

488
00:24:43.445 –> 00:24:44.645
towards the end of the day.

489
00:24:44.745 –> 00:24:47.405
So, so we’re different in that way and I love that

490
00:24:47.405 –> 00:24:50.005
because some people are gonna do it your way

491
00:24:50.005 –> 00:24:51.205
and some people will do it our way

492
00:24:51.225 –> 00:24:52.845
or just find somewhere in between.

493
00:24:53.465 –> 00:24:56.205
But I like, you know, working, like you said,

494
00:24:56.205 –> 00:24:58.565
when you know yourself really well, you work with yourself

495
00:24:58.625 –> 00:25:00.325
and you develop your own strategies.

496
00:25:00.345 –> 00:25:02.445
And to me, high energy stuff,

497
00:25:02.885 –> 00:25:04.445
creative stuff has to be done in the morning.

498
00:25:04.665 –> 00:25:07.365
And then brainless mindless crap can be done in the

499
00:25:07.365 –> 00:25:10.795
afternoon for me, but it does feel good at the

500
00:25:10.795 –> 00:25:11.955
end when I’ve done it all.

501
00:25:13.835 –> 00:25:16.235
Absolutely. Yeah. I love it. Okay, one more question. That

502
00:25:16.235 –> 00:25:17.075
Was a good one. I like that one.

503
00:25:17.825 –> 00:25:19.075
This is a good question too.

504
00:25:19.945 –> 00:25:24.435
Okay, so this is from someone who is saying

505
00:25:24.435 –> 00:25:27.275
that they do, they understand that they deal with anxiety,

506
00:25:27.375 –> 00:25:28.395
but they didn’t realize

507
00:25:28.905 –> 00:25:31.755
that the anxiety was coming from them pushing their feelings

508
00:25:31.755 –> 00:25:33.875
down and not feeling their feelings, right?

509
00:25:33.875 –> 00:25:36.875
So this has been something that they’ve kind of realized

510
00:25:37.085 –> 00:25:39.275
after listening to the episode on anxiety.

511
00:25:40.015 –> 00:25:41.355
Now this is their question.

512
00:25:41.355 –> 00:25:43.835
They said they’re finding themselves drinking alone at night

513
00:25:44.295 –> 00:25:45.875
in order to deal with the anxiety

514
00:25:46.535 –> 00:25:48.315
and not feeling the feelings.

515
00:25:48.675 –> 00:25:49.875
’cause they don’t wanna feel the feelings.

516
00:25:50.055 –> 00:25:53.555
So they’re drinking. So how should I best do this?

517
00:25:53.655 –> 00:25:54.955
It sounds like a silly question,

518
00:25:55.055 –> 00:25:57.115
but clearly I’m struggling with it.

519
00:25:57.545 –> 00:25:59.635
It’s not that I’m afraid to stop drinking, it’s just

520
00:25:59.635 –> 00:26:01.475
that I understand when I stop drinking,

521
00:26:01.705 –> 00:26:04.835
I’ll just start doing anything else to feel,

522
00:26:05.415 –> 00:26:06.555
to not feel the feelings.

523
00:26:06.855 –> 00:26:11.235
Oh my gosh. Well, I first of all hugs to this person, um,

524
00:26:11.535 –> 00:26:16.275
for their honesty and like, this deserves a f**k.

525
00:26:16.275 –> 00:26:18.595
Yeah. Can we just say everybody? F**k Yeah.

526
00:26:18.895 –> 00:26:20.835
To the person who asked this question,

527
00:26:20.865 –> 00:26:23.435
because I love you for this.

528
00:26:23.585 –> 00:26:25.795
It’s, you are already taking accountability.

529
00:26:25.795 –> 00:26:28.795
You’re already saying, I do this, I do this,

530
00:26:29.095 –> 00:26:30.315
and I love you for that.

531
00:26:30.615 –> 00:26:32.635
So it deserves a f**k. Yeah.

532
00:26:33.575 –> 00:26:37.555
Um, the drinking at night is self-soothing is

533
00:26:38.375 –> 00:26:40.315
you’re trying to take care of yourself,

534
00:26:40.935 –> 00:26:42.035
but you’re actually not.

535
00:26:42.455 –> 00:26:44.645
You’re numbing out, you’re turning away.

536
00:26:44.945 –> 00:26:48.685
The anxiety feels like s**t. People self-medicate.

537
00:26:49.235 –> 00:26:52.445
Sometimes it’s with alcohol, sometimes it’s with food,

538
00:26:52.445 –> 00:26:55.965
sometimes it’s with getting high or edibles or whatever.

539
00:26:55.965 –> 00:26:58.965
Sometimes self-medicating isn’t really about a substance.

540
00:26:58.965 –> 00:27:02.565
It’s, you know, watching Netflix until oblivion, you know,

541
00:27:02.835 –> 00:27:06.205
it’s, it’s for this particular person drinking too much.

542
00:27:06.235 –> 00:27:07.925
Well, what ends up happening is now you

543
00:27:07.925 –> 00:27:09.045
have a secondary problem.

544
00:27:10.305 –> 00:27:13.595
The secondary problem is I drink too much

545
00:27:14.015 –> 00:27:15.795
and maybe even a tertiary problem.

546
00:27:16.095 –> 00:27:19.195
I’m gaining weight because I’m getting all these calories at

547
00:27:19.195 –> 00:27:22.475
night and maybe even a fourth problem, I don’t sleep well

548
00:27:22.625 –> 00:27:24.755
because now I’ve had too much to drink.

549
00:27:25.935 –> 00:27:29.035
In case anybody doesn’t know, like the alcohol that

550
00:27:29.225 –> 00:27:32.395
that has you passing out as you get older is,

551
00:27:32.415 –> 00:27:33.715
we are more sensitive to that.

552
00:27:33.775 –> 00:27:37.315
And, and when your liver starts breaking down, now somebody

553
00:27:37.315 –> 00:27:39.515
who does a lot of science may argue this point,

554
00:27:39.535 –> 00:27:43.515
and I’m open to it, but what I’ve read is that the sugars,

555
00:27:43.985 –> 00:27:46.595
once you start breaking it down, actually wake you up.

556
00:27:47.135 –> 00:27:48.195
And I’ve experienced that.

557
00:27:48.215 –> 00:27:50.035
If I’ve ever had a little bit too much wine,

558
00:27:50.035 –> 00:27:51.195
which I’m not a big drinker,

559
00:27:51.195 –> 00:27:53.635
but if I do drink too much, I might kind

560
00:27:53.635 –> 00:27:54.715
of fall asleep really fast.

561
00:27:54.815 –> 00:27:56.395
But then in the middle of the night, I’m wide awake

562
00:27:56.895 –> 00:27:58.435
and I think that’s what’s going on.

563
00:27:58.495 –> 00:28:01.035
So, four problems now, all

564
00:28:01.035 –> 00:28:04.555
because not wanting to deal with the initial problem so

565
00:28:04.585 –> 00:28:07.275
that when we’re talking about motivation to doing the things

566
00:28:07.275 –> 00:28:10.355
that we don’t really wanna do, there’s a lot of reason here

567
00:28:10.415 –> 00:28:12.275
to do it, to sleep better,

568
00:28:12.455 –> 00:28:14.395
to not have these extra calories at night

569
00:28:14.495 –> 00:28:16.355
and to not have this problem of,

570
00:28:16.495 –> 00:28:17.915
of being too much of a drinker.

571
00:28:18.775 –> 00:28:23.295
Um, and anxiety as, as I talked about in that episode,

572
00:28:23.315 –> 00:28:25.975
is a secondary problem or a secondary emotion.

573
00:28:26.715 –> 00:28:29.455
So the primary emotion is something

574
00:28:29.455 –> 00:28:31.055
that this person doesn’t wanna feel.

575
00:28:31.555 –> 00:28:34.415
And I’m sorry, I don’t blame you

576
00:28:34.415 –> 00:28:38.095
because sometimes our feelings are uncomfortable,

577
00:28:39.985 –> 00:28:43.835
but, but we have to be willing

578
00:28:44.955 –> 00:28:49.015
to feel whatever it is that we’re feeling at night,

579
00:28:49.275 –> 00:28:51.455
during the day, whenever we’re feeling it,

580
00:28:51.725 –> 00:28:55.755
because it’s critical for us

581
00:28:55.815 –> 00:28:57.515
to have a relationship with ourselves.

582
00:28:58.255 –> 00:29:00.275
If you don’t, aren’t willing to feel

583
00:29:00.305 –> 00:29:03.635
what you’re feeling in those evening moments when you’re

584
00:29:03.635 –> 00:29:06.525
alone, you won’t know what’s eating at you.

585
00:29:06.665 –> 00:29:09.165
You won’t know what’s bothering you, you won’t know

586
00:29:09.905 –> 00:29:14.375
what’s causing you to feel this way, and then

587
00:29:14.375 –> 00:29:16.495
therefore you can’t do anything about it.

588
00:29:16.915 –> 00:29:18.935
So whatever it is that’s going on in your life

589
00:29:18.935 –> 00:29:22.015
that’s causing this will stay in your life

590
00:29:22.155 –> 00:29:23.495
and continue to cause it.

591
00:29:24.075 –> 00:29:25.535
So now you’re stuck forever.

592
00:29:26.825 –> 00:29:29.845
The only way to break this cycle of not drinking too much

593
00:29:29.905 –> 00:29:32.765
and avoiding your feelings because you have anxiety

594
00:29:32.765 –> 00:29:35.405
and blah, blah, blah, is to actually go towards

595
00:29:35.985 –> 00:29:37.685
the root issue.

596
00:29:38.305 –> 00:29:42.325
Go to the source, you know, put your Wonder Woman outfit on,

597
00:29:42.585 –> 00:29:44.285
outfit on, and get your armor out.

598
00:29:44.285 –> 00:29:47.165
Get your shield out, get your goggles on whatever you need

599
00:29:47.165 –> 00:29:48.325
to do to arm yourself.

600
00:29:49.995 –> 00:29:53.435
But go there. And I want to remind you,

601
00:29:53.765 –> 00:29:55.635
there is absolutely nothing

602
00:29:55.665 –> 00:29:57.995
that you will find underneath it.

603
00:29:57.995 –> 00:30:00.835
All that will melt you, kill you,

604
00:30:02.025 –> 00:30:03.835
shrivel you destroy you.

605
00:30:04.565 –> 00:30:07.955
There is nothing going on inside of you

606
00:30:08.345 –> 00:30:09.675
that you cannot handle.

607
00:30:11.185 –> 00:30:12.965
You are more powerful than you know.

608
00:30:14.005 –> 00:30:16.425
You are more resourceful than you give yourself credit for.

609
00:30:16.425 –> 00:30:19.105
You are smarter than you are giving yourself credit for.

610
00:30:20.695 –> 00:30:22.315
You will figure this out.

611
00:30:23.785 –> 00:30:25.405
And to be honest, it’s gonna feel

612
00:30:25.705 –> 00:30:27.365
so much better than you think it will.

613
00:30:29.125 –> 00:30:33.725
I promise you, you are feeling whatever you’re feeling at

614
00:30:33.725 –> 00:30:37.495
night because there’s something going on

615
00:30:37.685 –> 00:30:38.935
causing you to feel it.

616
00:30:39.595 –> 00:30:43.835
And until you are willing and,

617
00:30:44.055 –> 00:30:47.595
and ready to be honest with yourself about that,

618
00:30:48.765 –> 00:30:50.545
you’re gonna keep running from yourself.

619
00:30:52.215 –> 00:30:54.035
How long are you gonna run from yourself?

620
00:30:55.805 –> 00:30:59.855
This is your one life, one life. You get one life.

621
00:31:00.845 –> 00:31:02.705
Are you going to keep running away from yourself

622
00:31:03.245 –> 00:31:06.385
or are you going to meet yourself exactly where you are?

623
00:31:07.955 –> 00:31:11.775
Be your own best friend, get your own back, take care

624
00:31:11.775 –> 00:31:14.635
of you, and be fully self-centered.

625
00:31:15.685 –> 00:31:18.285
I promise you, the drinking will stop when you stop

626
00:31:18.285 –> 00:31:19.405
feeling anxious all the time.

627
00:31:19.425 –> 00:31:21.805
And I promise you, you’ll stop feeling anxious all the time

628
00:31:22.225 –> 00:31:24.245
if you’re willing to feel what you’re really feeling.

629
00:31:24.795 –> 00:31:26.685
Because when you feel what you’re really feeling,

630
00:31:26.945 –> 00:31:28.685
now you’re getting to the truth about your life

631
00:31:29.415 –> 00:31:31.475
and that there’s something probably that needs to change.

632
00:31:34.145 –> 00:31:36.205
If it’s a situation, change the situation.

633
00:31:36.705 –> 00:31:40.105
If it’s, if it’s something about yourself

634
00:31:40.105 –> 00:31:42.065
that you’re not happy with, okay,

635
00:31:42.665 –> 00:31:44.345
I know it doesn’t feel good to see those things,

636
00:31:44.565 –> 00:31:46.745
but they’re there whether you look at it or not.

637
00:31:48.385 –> 00:31:52.505
So look at it, my friend. Look at it.

638
00:31:52.735 –> 00:31:55.385
It’s just you. You’re not that scary.

639
00:31:55.385 –> 00:31:59.025
There’s nothing that scary about you. You’re not a monster.

640
00:31:59.075 –> 00:32:02.875
There is nothing that you will find that will destroy you.

641
00:32:03.615 –> 00:32:05.755
So that’s what I wanna say about that. How was that?

642
00:32:06.705 –> 00:32:07.705
That was so perfect.

643
00:32:09.005 –> 00:32:12.415
That was good. That was good. Th this is hard work though.

644
00:32:12.735 –> 00:32:14.095
I mean, I think we have to acknowledge

645
00:32:14.095 –> 00:32:15.455
that this is really hard.

646
00:32:16.145 –> 00:32:17.615
Doing the work is really hard,

647
00:32:17.795 –> 00:32:19.335
but when you’re on the other side

648
00:32:19.335 –> 00:32:21.095
of it, you feel so much better

649
00:32:22.555 –> 00:32:23.555
Relief.

650
00:32:23.715 –> 00:32:26.575
You know, when you, when you have like a slight headache

651
00:32:27.315 –> 00:32:29.015
or a slight stomach ache

652
00:32:29.075 –> 00:32:32.925
or something isn’t like, like killing you,

653
00:32:33.275 –> 00:32:35.325
it’s not over the top painful,

654
00:32:35.465 –> 00:32:37.245
but it’s just uncomfortable enough

655
00:32:37.245 –> 00:32:38.965
that you’re living your life with it.

656
00:32:39.140 –> 00:32:41.885
It, and then all of a sudden it goes away.

657
00:32:42.435 –> 00:32:45.965
That feeling of relief is profound.

658
00:32:48.495 –> 00:32:52.555
Relief from pain is the best feeling ever.

659
00:32:53.555 –> 00:32:55.495
That’s what awaits on the other side of this.

660
00:32:55.835 –> 00:32:59.255
We get very used to walking with a limp, right?

661
00:32:59.355 –> 00:33:01.455
Or you have like a, you know, your toe hurts

662
00:33:01.475 –> 00:33:02.655
and so you’re walking funny

663
00:33:03.195 –> 00:33:05.335
or you know, your muscles are sore, so you’re kind

664
00:33:05.335 –> 00:33:08.535
of walking around stiff when that goes away

665
00:33:08.755 –> 00:33:11.535
and you can just walk without thinking about walking.

666
00:33:12.845 –> 00:33:15.395
Oh my god, it’s life changing.

667
00:33:17.055 –> 00:33:19.115
So I just want everybody to be willing to do

668
00:33:19.115 –> 00:33:20.955
that work to live free.

669
00:33:21.465 –> 00:33:23.835
Like, oh my god, it’s the best feeling ever.

670
00:33:26.735 –> 00:33:30.865
What else anymore? I think that’s it. Okay.

671
00:33:30.975 –> 00:33:33.985
Well that was so fun. I can’t wait to do our next one.

672
00:33:34.445 –> 00:33:35.465
Um, I, that was awesome.

673
00:33:35.545 –> 00:33:38.305
I feel like I got so much out of that. Yay. Me too.

674
00:33:38.465 –> 00:33:40.385
I love it lights me up sometimes.

675
00:33:40.665 –> 00:33:44.385
I actually have a hard time to be honest, coaching

676
00:33:45.125 –> 00:33:48.065
and answering questions when somebody’s really in pain

677
00:33:48.065 –> 00:33:50.545
because I feel the potential and the possibility

678
00:33:50.645 –> 00:33:52.865
and I get really energized by that.

679
00:33:53.605 –> 00:33:56.145
So, you know, I go to this like, I know

680
00:33:56.145 –> 00:33:59.145
what it’s like on the other side, so let’s get you there,

681
00:33:59.925 –> 00:34:01.465
um, as fast as possible.

682
00:34:01.765 –> 00:34:05.105
And it’s not as hard as we think it’s going to be.

683
00:34:05.175 –> 00:34:07.985
It’s not as scary as we think it’s going to be.

684
00:34:08.115 –> 00:34:09.265
Especially to,

685
00:34:09.525 –> 00:34:12.905
to note the therapy episode when you don’t look backwards

686
00:34:13.045 –> 00:34:14.585
and get stuck in the pain

687
00:34:14.645 –> 00:34:18.105
and the trauma in the past in the s**t that’s happened.

688
00:34:18.685 –> 00:34:21.625
And we’re ready to look forward and move forward

689
00:34:21.685 –> 00:34:23.905
and focus on what do I need to do and how do I do it?

690
00:34:23.905 –> 00:34:27.945
Let’s go, let’s get there. That is life changing too.

691
00:34:28.795 –> 00:34:30.855
And that’s really where I want everybody to be going.

692
00:34:31.035 –> 00:34:32.975
That’s where we’re headed, you know?

693
00:34:33.315 –> 00:34:35.575
Um, we have more control over where we,

694
00:34:35.895 –> 00:34:39.985
where we end up when we’re willing to look at, at more about

695
00:34:40.255 –> 00:34:43.105
what we want for ourselves moving forward than focusing on

696
00:34:43.105 –> 00:34:44.865
the past and what’s been done wrong to us

697
00:34:44.965 –> 00:34:46.185
and how we’ve been done wrong.

698
00:34:46.965 –> 00:34:49.145
Um, it, how we got here doesn’t matter

699
00:34:49.165 –> 00:34:50.345
as much as where do we wanna go.

700
00:34:51.505 –> 00:34:54.765
Honestly, truly, it’s, it’s a,

701
00:34:54.765 –> 00:34:56.445
it’s an interesting part of the story.

702
00:34:56.515 –> 00:34:58.285
It’s an interesting part of the conversation.

703
00:34:58.425 –> 00:35:01.205
How did I get here? It’s great self-awareness,

704
00:35:01.465 –> 00:35:04.085
but people get stuck on that part of the journey,

705
00:35:04.585 –> 00:35:05.765
on that part of the story.

706
00:35:06.465 –> 00:35:09.925
And I just say, if you can’t look backwards

707
00:35:10.065 –> 00:35:13.245
and figure things out quickly, don’t get stuck there,

708
00:35:14.605 –> 00:35:15.985
you know, move forward.

709
00:35:16.245 –> 00:35:18.025
And actually as you move forward,

710
00:35:18.295 –> 00:35:21.705
sometimes the stuff from the past comes

711
00:35:21.765 –> 00:35:24.385
to be illuminated and that’s great.

712
00:35:25.165 –> 00:35:27.305
It can come as you’re moving forward.

713
00:35:28.265 –> 00:35:30.925
But ’cause because our growth isn’t always linear,

714
00:35:31.265 –> 00:35:35.325
it can be a messy scribble scrabble, you know, on a page.

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But, but focusing on where we wanna go

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and what we really want for ourselves rather than

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what we don’t want is really the way to go.

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So thanks everybody for listening

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and if you want to submit your questions,

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just tell everybody how to do that.

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Head on over to hillary silver.com, go to the podcast

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section, just click the button that says podcast,

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and right there you’ll see a place to nominate

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and that’s where you can drop your questions.

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Ooh, that’s the funny picture on the website

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Freaking out about something?

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Yes, I can freaking out.

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That’s exactly the best place to submit your questions.

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We will be doing these q

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and as every so often when we feel like we have some really

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good juicy questions

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that everyone listening can benefit from.

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And that’s all for today.

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Make sure that you rate and review, um,

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that other people can find us

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and we will see you on the next episode.

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Thanks so much for joining the conversation today.

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I hope you learned something new

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or heard something that inspired you

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to take action in a new way.

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As your greatest champion

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and someone who truly cares about your love, happiness,

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wealth, and success, I always want to encourage you

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to ask yourself this question, how have I contributed?

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You are the only person who can ask this

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and the only one who can answer it.

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This doesn’t just change your life, this changes everything.

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